How To Go On

I am facedown on the floor, folks, and I don’t feel like I’m getting up anytime soon. This week is gutting. This year is gutting. It’s relentless. It hasn’t felt so hard to hold onto hope in a long time.

But there is so much further we could fall. There are yawning caverns beneath our feet, just waiting.

Don’t set your sights on 2020. You can’t wait that long. We can’t wait that long. You need to start fighting now, as soon as you can manage it.

That’s the key, though: as soon as you can manage it.

Take the time you need to deal with your grief and anxiety, with your disappointment. Take the time to understand what’s most important to you and where you need to focus your energy. Ask for help if you need it. I needed it. I’ll need it again, repeatedly, for a long time. I’ll keep asking.

Take some time to reflect. Take some time to read about other people’s resistance and their advice for you, like these steps on how to survive autocracy. Most importantly, take time to relax and focus on the good in your life. To enjoy yourself, a book, a movie, a sitcom. Go see a Star War. I’m going to see several! Read some fiction, write some. Listen to a poem outside in the sun. Take a nap instead of checking the news. Take care of yourself first. You are important. You are needed. We don’t want to go on without you.

Talk to people you trust about why you’re scared. Put your safety first, but don’t hide behind your desire for comfort if you’re already safe. There are so many people who aren’t going to be safe for long and they need us to fight for them.

And when you feel like you’re ready, start here:

Do whatever you need to strengthen your own situation first. Are you part of a vulnerable population? Do you need to make sure you have your documentation in order in case your gender or marriage is no longer recognized? In case your citizenship is no longer recognized? In case your immigration status is scrutinized, or your religion, or your affiliations? Could you lose access to healthcare? Are there alternatives? Things you can do now to guard against future catastrophe? There are so many people and organizations who are ready now to help you. If you need help finding them, tell me and I’ll help you.

What can you do for others now? Not next week, not next year. What is the first step you can take, right now, from where you are? Write it down, then do it, then cross it off. Then you can figure out the next one. Right now, you only need to worry about your very next step.

What organizations in your immediate area will need your help to protect people? Reach out to them now. Many will be overwhelmed by support that will trickle away in the next few months as passions subside and the natural human instinct to seek reassurance and normalize horror starts to take over. Set a calendar reminder to reach out again in three months. And again in six. Find places that could use you and make a commitment to be there. Set up donations if you can afford it.

Talk to your friends and family and coworkers. Do you know how many people don’t actually know what’s at stake? It’s a lot. It’s a surprising amount of a lot. Find common ground, if you can. Educate, if you can. Sometimes you can’t, and that’s okay, too. You aren’t required to try to change anyone. You aren’t required to try to change even one.

Who is running your city, county, and state after this election? Get their names. Get their contact info. Throw it in a Google doc. Start asking them how they’re going to work for you. Start telling them to vote for and write legislation for the things you want. Do it as soon as you feel like you can.

Who is going to represent you in Congress now? Get their names. Get their contact info. Tell them what you want them to do. Tell them what you won’t support them doing. Not sure what to say? Find an advocacy group that deals with the issues that concern you and ask them. Most will already have sample letters or emails or phone scripts you can use.

Still not sure what to do? This Twitter thread lays out the mechanics of effective communication with your elected officials.

Who is running for election in 2017? 2018? (NOTE: All of the House of Representatives is up for election in 2018. ALL 435 VOTING SEATS OF IT. Along with 33 Senate seats.) We need to start organizing and pushing and working now to get the people we want into those offices so they can protect and promote the policies we want.

Here are all the Democratic Party branches in every state, Puerto Rico, DC, and abroad. That’s who we need to push to lead the fight. I’m sorry if you still believe there’s someone else who can do it. There isn’t. The Democrats have a larger coalition than anyone else. The Libertarians can’t do it. The Green Party can’t do it. The Worker’s Party can’t do it. Bernie can’t do it. Elizabeth Warren, Cory Booker, Julián Castro, Keith Ellison, and every other next-hope you have can’t do it.

But you can. We can. Let’s go.

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Better Living Through List-making

There’s a lot of satisfaction in making a list of things you can cross off. Or so people tell me! I don’t make those kinds of lists, because I forget they exist before anything reaches a cross-off-able state.

I also don’t think much of New Year’s resolutions. Nothing about the arbitrary turning of one year to the next makes me likely to stick to a new diet, habit, or lifestyle. In fact, it’s usually the opposite. Time off work ushers in the kind of ludicrous optimism that leads to pledges like: no caffeine, no food after 6pm, no TV ever. I’ve known myself long enough to know not a single specific resolution is ever going to stick.

Instead, what I’m planning to do in the new year is step up what I’m already doing.

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Going for the Goldblum

Get excited, everybody! I’ve got a new project coming up on Pop Culture Crazy in a few weeks: Going for the Goldblum!

It’s been difficult to choose what to highlight. Jeff Goldblum’s career is in its fortieth year. But, obviously, we’ll hit the big titles—your Jurassic Parks, your The Flys, your Transylvania 6-5000s…

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Strange things are afoot

Some cool things this week:

  • I’m recording a guest spot on The Televoid tonight! More details later, but if you remember what I lost in a bet to Kacey Bange after the Super Bowl (HASHTAG KACEYWHY), you’re already prepped for the horrors to come what’s about to ensue.
  • Speaking of Kacey, in the next couple of weeks I’ll be launching a weekly column on her Pop Culture Crazy blog: Going for the Goldblum. Yep, that guy.
  • I wrote a thing for one of the Flash Fiction challenges at Terrible Minds this week: Fee. Anybody else interested in jumping in? You write 500 words but don’t end the story, then link it in Chuck Wendig’s post so someone else can finish it for you next week. (Promised myself I wouldn’t look for stories to finish until after the weekend, but…)
  • I’m officially launching this fancy new blog. Hello, Twitter!
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